The Winn House

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I’m usually thought of as the Quiet Winn and this is largely because the rest of the Winns are loud-ass queens. Just kidding. They’re very assertive people though. I’m 18, getting ready to head to college, and can’t wait. I love my family but I lust after freedom. I want to define myself. I want to know more bigger better broader.

I’m pretty social, I have lots of friends, I don’t really have one friend group that I see. I literally orbit the cafeteria every day at lunch checking in on my sports friends, my drama friends, my alternative school friends, etc.

I think I’m just nice to people. It’s weird how surprising that is to most.

I spend a lot of time thinking about how Dustin is gonna be when I leave. He and I have been together our entire lives, I was his main support system and only anchor until he was 7 and we moved in with our moms. He acts like it’s no big deal that I’m leaving, he brushes me off and calls me “too in my feelings” when I try to talk about it, and I’m worried that once I’m gone he’ll lose his shit and drama queen the entire house into oblivion.

He probably won’t though, right?


I became a Winn when I was 7 and I remember every single thing about it. I loved Clare and Nomi immediately, the moment we walked into their home, it felt like my home. My sister Levi was a little more hesitant – she was a little older and had some more reservations. She was not ready to leave another temporary home.

When moms told us that we were staying forever, my whole life fell into place and I was able to explore some interests more lofty than “finding a family” and “being loved.” That sounds hella cheesy, but it was amazing the amount of my brain that opened up when it was finally housed in a stable and loving environment.

So I joined a dance class and a choir and decided I was going to become a performer when I was 9. I’m about to turn 17 and try out for the Varsity Cheer Squad. It’s not exactly the kind of performing I aim for but it’s a step towards it.

I want to end up on broadway.

As an aside and to point to the elephant in the room because everyone else uses coded language and nuance to share this part about our family: my moms are, obviously, gay women. I’m, obviously, a gay boy. And my sister Levi is the family outsider with her heterosexuality and quietness about it.


I have often been described by people who love me as a “workaholic” and I can’t really argue. I come from a very traditional Midwestern home where my dad worked long hours, came home tired, and mom was there to manage the home. I admired my dad for his work ethic. And I admired my mom for her dedication to the family she had built.

I didn’t know at the time that I longed for a similar lifestyle but when I met Nomi, it all fell into place. She’s very much like my mom, I’m very much like my dad, and we are all happy with the arrangement.
We were together for ten years before we got serious, and then we got serious very quickly. We got married, welcomed two young children into our home, and got to work turning them into smart, clever, kind people!

Now that they’re both teenagers and stay busy, I spend one hour every day reading their entries on this blog and positively beaming with pride for their thoughtfulness, positivity, and willingness to be bold!


I’m Nomi, mom to Dustin and Levi, partner to Clare. It was my bright idea to start this blog because Dustin spends most of his evenings at choir practice or dance and Levi is a social butterfly who barely lands anywhere ever. Clare works full time for Hadley Law Firm Mobile and makes a point to share family breakfast every day, but seldom make sit home for supper.

We always knew we’d be a busy family and we don’t want to infringe our kids’ right to become who they are. But we just wanted to stay engaged and have a space to explore feelings together – even if that space has to be online.

And I don’t work, in the traditional sense. I learned early in my adulthood that a 9-5 type of work doesn’t really suit me, so I do some work as a freelance writer and spend much of my time managing our household.

I never thought I’d be a –ahem- stay at home mom. But I’m very organized, I love my family, and my home is a beautiful space. I’m so happy and blessed and joyful!